Beware, These Behaviors Can Break Friendship

Friendships often break up because of 1-2 things. Inadvertently, what may not seem like a big deal can ruin a friendship.

The following are bad behaviors to watch out for and can damage friendships and what to do, as reported by Eat This.

Give unsolicited advice when friends just want to vent

When friends face problems, say they don't agree with their partner or feel their work is not appreciated, sometimes they just want an ear to hear .

Even if you mean well, giving advice when they want to vent can backfire and lead to more frustration. Before telling how to fix the problem, ask them directly if they want your opinion.

Not attentive

Friends visit often to see how your new job is going, if you've been doing well lately, and what's going on with your family. You respond but rarely give enough time in the conversation to ask how he is. To overcome this, start making a commitment to call friends and ask how they are, especially how they are feeling and mentally right now.

Avoid confrontation at all costs

Even the smoothest of friendships sometimes hit a dead end. At some point, your best friend will say something that hurts your feelings or do something that upsets you.When that happens, do you tell him what's bothering you? Or do you complain about it to other friends?

The confrontation may feel tense or uncomfortable at the time but it doesn't have to turn into an argument. Honest discussions are essential to the long term health and closeness of a relationship, plus holding back emotions if it works for so long, those annoying feelings are bound to seep out one way or another.

Forcing expectations on friends

You may have a lot in common with your friends but that doesn't mean you will always get along. You have different preferences, priorities and points of view and that's very healthy. Resist the temptation to tell a friend how to live your life based on what you're going to do. However, if you're afraid your friend will make a decision that could be dangerous, it's okay to voice your concern.

Compete

Life really has been treating friends well these days. They get promotions at work, pay off most loans, and go on vacations. You want to be happy about their success but inside you are filled with envy. When a friend mentions a new role or talks about travel, you can't help but brag about how you're on track to getting a big raise too, or talk about luxury accommodations during your last vacation. Jealousy can change some people.*Always waiting for turn to speak and not really listening

Do you think about what to talk about when you should be listening to what a friend has to say? You may need to sharpen your listening skills. If they don't feel heard, it may make them less likely to open up to you in the future.

To improve active listening skills, stay present instead of formulating responses in your head, hold back interruptions, summarize what has been said, and show interest by asking follow-up questions. Body language is also an important part of active listening. Listen to friends as they talk, make eye contact, and nod occasionally

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